What if your brother in law gives unsolicited advice regarding your kids, but censors yours?

Elaboration is basically that when you try to connect with his kid, he is protective and appears unreceptive to you but in the reverse he and his wife try to connect with your kids and give advice or even directives to your kids while you are present and when you go to intercept the directive, they nod authoritatively for you to stop so that your kid will follow through on what they told them to do. Any thoughts?What if your brother in law gives unsolicited advice regarding your kids, but censors yours?
Eesh. I think I'd go out of my way to avoid that brother in law. But maybe just being a little more assertive on your part would be enough. Or perhaps try having your husband talk to him (if it's your husband's brother; if it's your sister's husband, then perhaps speak with your sister about it.) I know you want to maintain the family peace. But yeah, I know I could only take so much of that. Next time he tries domineering in a situation with your kids, I might politely say, ';It's okay, (insert name here), I've got this one.'; Or, if you're feeling really frustrated: (I'M the MOMMY HERE, thanks!!) :-)What if your brother in law gives unsolicited advice regarding your kids, but censors yours?
tell your kids to go off and play while you talk to ';auntie and uncle'; BUTT IN, and you will explain to them later about what is happening, then tell them to please refrain from telling your kids to ';do '; anything, and stick by it. If your kids are kicking other children or going to hurt themselves then I would say maybe they are right but if they r just ordering your kids around then tell them to sto. Remember: ';you teach people how to treat you';
Everyone thinks that their advice is the best advice. Just this weekend I was having dinner at a restaurant and was noticing a couple with a new born waiting for a to-go order. Almost every total stranger sitting nearby them asked if that was their first baby and then proceeded to tell them various bits of information that began with ';The best thing you can do...';





That being said, you need to sit down with your wife and both of them to have a conversation about it when the kids are not present. Even if he still refuses to accept advice from you, you have the right to tell him/them that you do not want unsolicited advice from them. If it continues to be an issue after having a grown up discussion, you should make it a point to avoid their company for a while.
Tell him straight up what you think. Hey if you can give advice etc for my children and don't expect the same for yours then ask him to stop. Maybe no one has dared telling him anything yet. Good luck!
Privately have a chat with him( and your husband or your sister-whoever is related to him)


Tell him you think he means well, but he is drivign you bonkers.


Tell him you will no longer be open to comments about your children.


Tell him he has zero authority over your children when you are present, and it is undermining your parental authority for him to misdirect and intercept you.


Tell him you will not tolerate being disrespected in front of your own children.


Ask him for any thoughts he might have in his defense.LISTEN!! He may have something intelligent to say.


Let the relative talk-have them back you up.


Tell him If he does it again, you will not stand for it.


Tell him if you have to, you will cease all contact with him and your kids.


Tell him you mean business. YOU expect to be respected and allowed to correct/raise your children without his interference.


Next time he opens his pie-hole, and he will, say, ';Remember, Uncle Roger, what we talked about?'; If he doesn't hush immediately, say '; Come on, kids, we're leaving. ';


Pack them up and exit. Do not back down, no matter who starts hollering.


Do that a couple of times, and no one will give you %26amp;^% in front of your kids.
they need to have their own damn kids and if they do they need to pay more attention to thier own. however, you need to take them aside away from the kids and let them know that you dont appreciate their butting in, it's annoying and doesnt look good in the eyes of the kids. if they dont understand or continue to do so simply tell them to mind their own business
Why don't you just say to him: '; Look bub...why don't you raise your kids, and I'll raise mine. I won't tell you how to raise yours, and let me raise mine how I see fit, OK ?';





Some folks need to be told bluntly.
uh yeah....when they nod their head, nicely exclaim ';um excuse me..I birthed them, and I'm here...they need to do something? I let them know..but thanks for trying to help'; then walk you and your children away. might cause hard feelings...but they are being totally presumptious and totally rude...unless of course your kids are misbehaving and you are not doing anything about it.
It really depends. Do you agree with the advice he gives your children? If not, tell him that you do not agree. I wouldn't tell him in front of the kids because that just causes problems. Take him to the side and tell him that you are trying to raise your kids to your standards and you don't think that his advice is helping.





Also, take him to the side and let him know that you don't mind him giving your children advice, but in turn, you should also be giving the same opportunities. If he doesn't think you are good enough to give his children the advice, maybe he shouldn't be doing it with yours. Don't be ugly with him, but be firm. These are you children after all, not his. You need to step in now, before they learn that they can go to him instead of you. He's taking your place. Stop it now.
This doesnt sound healthy but I would tell them where to go and if they keep going then a restraining order from the courts and serve it on them!!! You dont want that to happen but if that is what it takes to make them stop then do what you have to to protect you and your kids.
tell him to get the heck over it and that you are YOUR CHILDREN'S PARENT and what you say goes not what he says. I'd have punched him in his mouth for that.
OUCH! Sounds like you need to find a way to open the line of communication and find out why they are doing this. You may not agree on how to raise children, but they don't have the right to tell you how to raise your own kids, and what they should or shouldn't be doing.